Monday, September 27, 2010

Spiritual Orphans and how they come to be so

Due to the social depravity of our nation, I am only going to discuss situations that I know of at this time which occur within the body of Christ. I do recognize that there are tons of situations outside the body of Christ which lead to Spiritual Orphans. At this time, my focus is on addressing the situations within the body of Christ that leave Children trying to learn and grow in God while being abandoned physically, mentally, emotionally and eventually Spiritually.



  • when parents are spiritually sick, or otherwise comprimised. 
  • When the child becomes the caregiver, 
  • when the parent becomes the rebellious child with illness.
  • when the child must acknowledge the lack of presence of one or both parents in their life due to physical, mental, emotional, financial or spiritual abandonment
  • When children who had parents setting the example for them when they were younger, but parents abandon their faith and their walk as they (the children)get older
  • When parents decide that they want their will in their lives and do not care about God's will, thereby setting a sad example of worldly selfishness and not that of serving God.
  • Children in nasty custody situations in which Parental Alienation or Hostile Aggressive Parenting takes place- please note, it is my opinion and the opinion of many others that Parental Alienation IS child abuse as it is spiritual abuse.It places priority and desires of the Alienating Parent above the needs of the child,and they attempt to make themselves an idol before the child which also violates the 1st, 2nd and 5th commandments.
  • Children who have been abandoned by a parent that have left them physically, emotionally, financially or spiritually to the world without someone to "train up a child in the way they should go"

God's word is very clear on the role of parents and their responsibilities to their children:

1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2"Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."[a] 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:1-4

20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
 21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:20-21


 9 Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. 10 Remember the day you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, when he said to me, "Assemble the people before me to hear my words so that they may learn to revere me as long as they live in the land and may teach them to their children." Deuteronomy 4: 9-10


 4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. [a] 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:4-9


28 Be careful to obey all these regulations I am giving you, so that it may always go well with you and your children after you, because you will be doing what is good and right in the eyes of the LORD your God.Deuteronomy 12:28




By the scriptures listed above, it is very clear to see how God gives parents the role and responsibility of teaching them right from wrong and teaching them about God and living according to his word. When parents fail to do this whether be due to lack of faith, choosing to leave the faith or any multitude of situations, they are not fulfilling the role that God gave them when he provided them the blessing of being parents.


Physical and Sexual Child abuse are also very harmful to a child as it tells the child that the parent does not care for them but for their own wants and desires in the flesh. The physical abuse tells the children that the parent does not love them enough to control their anger. Sexual abuse tells the child that the parent cares only about their fleshly desires.


We must come together as a nation and start praying for our children, for they are our future and if We, the body of Christ, do not start looking out for and praying for our children now, Our nation will surely be lost.


I wanted to share a poem I have always enjoyed.



By MARIAN WRIGHT EDELMAN
We pray for children
Who sneak popsicles before supper,
Who erase holes in math workbooks,
Who can never find their shoes.

And we pray for those
Who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire,
Who can’t bound down the street in a new pair of sneakers,
Who never “counted potatoes,”
Who are born in places we wouldn’t be caught dead,
Who never go to the circus,
Who live in an X-rated world.

We pray for children
Who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions,
Who hug us in a hurry and forget their lunch money.
And we pray for those
Who never get dessert,
Who have no safe blanket to drag behind them,
Who watch their parents watch them die,
Who can’t find any bread to steal,
Who don’t have any rooms to clean up,
Whose pictures aren’t on anybody’s dresser,
Whose monsters are real.

We pray for children
Who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,
Who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food,
Who like ghost stories,
Who shove dirty clothes under the bed and never rinse out the tub,
Who get visits from the tooth fairy,
Who don’t like to be kissed in front of the carpool,
Who squirm in church or temple and scream in the phone,
Whose tears we sometimes laugh at and whose smiles can make us cry.

And we pray for those
Whose nightmares come in the daytime,
Who will eat anything,
Who have never seen a dentist,
Who aren’t spoiled by anybody,
Who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep,
Who live and move, but have no being.

We pray for children who want to be carried and for those who must,
For those we never give up on and for those who don’t get a second chance.
For those we smother … and for those who will grab the hand of anybody kind enough to offer it.

Please offer your hands to them so that no child is left behind because we did not act.


Let us pray for our children on a daily basis and share a prayer together:


Father God, 


We know we are fallible due to our human nature. We recognize that we would not be able to raise our children up to serve and honor you without your guidance and wisdom in our lives.At this time we lift up our children and the children of this nation, and all over the world. We pray,that each child would have a saving faith and and a growing faith in you. We pray that they will be strong and healthy in mind, body and spirit. A sense of destiny and purpose in accordance with your will for their lives. A desire for integrity and a call to excellence. To understand the ministry that you, God,have for them in their lives. We ask that you remind us to always set aside times to spend with them. We pray that they may acquire biblical wisdom that comes from knowing you and having a personal relationship with you. We ask that you may protect them from drugs, alcohol and premarital sex. We pray that the mate you have chosen for them will have a strong walk and close relationship with you so that they may not be unequally yoked. We pray that all they do may edify and glorify you. We ask that you also give them a forgiving heart and understanding that we, as parents will make mistakes and even when we are too prideful to apologize to them when we are wrong, they may love us as you love us and know in our hearts that we did not mean intentional hurt upon them. We ask that you always be present in their lives, for there will come a time when they will leave  home and we won't be in there daily steps, but you will be. We ask that they may know they can always come to you at any time and that your lap is a very safe and comfortable place to be when things are not going well and even more amazing place when things are right in their life. We ask this humbly in the name of thy son, our beloved Savior, Jesus Christ. AMEN.




You are in my prayers. 




Love in Christ always,
Akuas Keiki









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