Parental Alienation creates Spiritual Orphans

As with my previous post, I am going to share how this devastating and cruel form of child abuse can create Spiritual Orphans.


Let us look at the Ten Commandments, which are God's basic rules of moral living according to his standards for us. We will then look at how Parental Alienation is Spiritual child abuse because of the AP (Alienating Parent) is teaching the child to clearly go against God's word, thereby making them a Spiritual Orphan.


The 10 Commandments - God's Revelation in the Old Testament
The 10 Commandments are found in the Bible's Old Testament at Exodus, Chapter 20. They were given directly by God to the people of Israel at Mount Sinai after He had delivered them from slavery in Egypt: 

"And God spoke all these words, saying: 'I am the LORD your God… 

ONE: 'You shall have no other gods before Me.' 

TWO: 'You shall not make for yourself a carved image--any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.' 

THREE: 'You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.' 

FOUR: 'Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.' 

FIVE: 'Honor your father and your mother.' 

SIX: 'You shall not murder.' 

SEVEN: 'You shall not commit adultery.' 

EIGHT: 'You shall not steal.' 

NINE: 'You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.' 

TEN: 'You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.'

When Parental Alienation exists in a child's life- it creates confusion and self loathing. This is not of God. The child who is taught to hate the other parent, is essentially taught to hate part of themselves.

They are also taught to lie to get out of doing things they think they do not want to do. (violation of the 9th Commandment)

When a parent elevates their own wants and desires, this shows lack of care or concern for the child.

When a parent makes themselves an idol before the child, they are directly telling the child to worship them above God. This is clearly a violation of the 1st and 2nd Commandments

When a child is taught to hate the other parent in their lives by the AP, this clearly violates the 5th Commandment. 

When a child is taught to steal from the other parent to give to the AP, this is a violation of the 8th Commandment.

When an AP does all they can to bring division and destruction to the relationship between the Target Parent (TP), they are essentially murdering that relationship. In my opinion, this is a violation of the 6th Commandment. 

When an AP begins to think selfishly, and covets any and all time the child may have with the TP, they are violating the 10th commandment.

So let us summarize: Parental Alienation involves violation of the 1st, 2nd, 5th, 6th, 8th, 9th and 10th Commandments. This is over half of the Commandments given by God for living according to HIS Word. 

Parental Alienation can also be considered Spiritual Child abuse by virtue of the fact that most AP's do not go to church, nor do they bring the children up in Christian homes. The children are not taught about God's unconditional love for them. The children are taught to fear the wrath of the AP instead of GOD. The child is taught to place the AP above all other relationships in their life. 

This can be and is emotionally devastating to a child. 

With such importance on the relationship between the AP and the child, it does not help the child to learn proper coping mechanisms as they always turn to the AP to find out how they should feel about a situation. This also creates co-dependency which will affect the child later on in life.

As a survivor of Parental Alienation from my childhood, having reunited with my father at age 19, it has pained me greatly to the hurt and emotional torture my dad has gone through over the years. To this day, my brother is still so brainwashed, that he is now helping my biological mother keep my children from me. 

My father has finally decided he can no longer wait to have a relationship with my brother and has officially disowned him. My dad got to a point in his life where it hurt him too much to have a dead relationship with a Living Son.

Although it breaks my heart, I do understand my father's pain as I now live it. I will, however never allow myself to get to that point. I will continue to fight daily for my right to be a part of my children's lives.

When children are taught hate, self loathing and disobedience of God and his word, this creates a void of the relationship between that child and God. This also clearly demonstrates that a child is not being brought up in accordance with Ephesians 6:1-4

 ¹Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ²"Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— ³"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."^[a] 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

If you know of a child who is suffering from Spiritual Abuse as a result of Parental Alienation, there is help. 

You may contact Joshua Rose Foundation 

760-957-7027 Mon- Friday 8 am - 6 pm

Saturdays from 9 am- 3 pm

You may also send an email to them at JoshuaRoseFoundation@gmail.com

God bless you all and know you are in my prayers. 

Love in Christ always,

Akuas Keiki